Five Things You Need to be an OVERCOMER!

There are so many challenges in life.   For many people they go out of the fire into the frying pan, and then between a rock and a hard place and than back to the fire again!  Many people in this life just go from one trial to another without much break in between.  There are five areas of life that we emphasize, health, emotional, spiritual, financial and relational.    And there are so many people in the USA today that is messed up in all five areas.   Going through trials and problems no matter which way they turn.  There are 5 things you need to overcome in this life.  Cleave to these 5 things and you WILL overcome.

Revelation 12:11 is one of the most powerful verses in the Bible.   And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony; and they loved not their lives unto death.  In this verse of Scripture we see the first three things we need to overcome in this life.

1.  The Blood of the Lamb  -  We hear a lot of teaching on faith today, but faith alone cannot bring you to a place of overcoming in this life.   This is why many people are speaking positive, quoting Scriptures, and trying to walk in faith but not seeing results.   It is the blood of Jesus that makes our prayers and efforts acceptable to God, and without his blood all our efforts to please God is useless.  First we overcome the enemy by the blood of the lamb.   If people could see how often demonic interference messes up their life and spoils their plans, hopes and dreams they would run to Jesus!   We need the blood of the lamb to make us right with God, but also to overcome the enemy who seeks to steal, kill and destroy.

Hebrews 13:12   Therefore Jesus also, that he might sanctify the people with his own blood, suffered outside the gate.

2.   Faith -The Second part of that verse says, and by the word of their testimony.    I ask you, what WORD are you speaking today?   Does your lips ring with the testimony of Jesus?  Are the words of your mouth glorifying the problems, or glorifying the KING OF KINGS.   You may think how can I glorify Jesus when I have so many problems.   Well, that is what FAITH is.   IF you only glorify God AFTER he comes through for you, that isn't FAITH, that is PRAISE.   Faith is when you talk about his goodness before HE answers your prayer.    You have FAITH that HE will do what HE  PROMISED HE would do, so by FAITH you lift HIM up and glorify HIS name.

1 John 5:4 For whoever is born of God overcomes the world: and this is the victory that overcomes the world, even our faith.

3.   Standing Firm  The third part of that verse says, and they loved not their lives even unto the death.  Wow.  That is standing firm.   As long as you are walking by the blood one day, and living like you never knew Jesus the next, you are not going to overcome the world.   As long as you walk in faith one day, and talk and live like a sailer the next you are not going to  overcome the world.  What do you have to do?  You have to continue walking with God, doing the will of God, living the word of God until your deliverance comes.  How determined do you have to be to walk with God and overcome this world?   You have to be determined enough to walk with God all the way to the death.  
Hebrew 6:13 Therefore take unto you the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.

4.  Being Good  Romans 12:21   Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.
No matter how much you plead the blood of Jesus, or speak the words of faith, or stand your ground in God if you are not good eventually you will be overcome by the evil of this world.    If you are not good to your spouse eventually they will leave you.   If you are not good to your body, eventually you are going to get a lot of sickness.   If you do not fight the good fight of the faith, eventually you will be overtaken by darkness.   If you do not do what is right and good with your money, poverty will soon overtake your life.     Often people try to 'be good' without completely turning their lives over to the will of God.   I am telling you today that there is NO ONE good except for God, and you will NOT be GOOD unless Jesus Christ is living in you and you have fully surrendered your life to him.  The Apostle Peter said to make every effort to add to our faith goodness.   There are those today that say the blood is all you need to overcome, but the blood of Jesus is not going to stop you from landing in jail if you break the law.   If you want to have a more drama free life, learn to add goodness to your faith!

2 Peter 1:5  For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge;

5.  Jesus In You  -  1 John 4:4  You are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world.   The answer is always the same,  Christ in you the HOPE of glory!    Do you have to overcome past mistakes?   The BLOOD IS GREATER, you can overcome them by the blood of the lamb, that washes our sins away!   Do you have to overcome issues that leave you broke, sick, or oppressed?   OUR FAITH in GOD is GREATER!  Faith can move any mountain!     Is this world pushing and shoving on you and trying to blow you every which direction?   WHEN you STAND on the ROCK of AGES, your strength is GREATER.  Nothing can move you off that ROCK if you plant your feet and refuse to budge!     Is this world DARK?  Jesus is the LIGHT!   Is this World bad?   God is the answer!   You can be good and shine as a beacon in a world that is dark and cold because our God is greater!     It is Christ in YOU the Hope of GLORY!

Do You Need More Power In Your Life?

We often use the Word CHRIST when referring to Jesus.   Jesus was the name by which his neighbors knew him growing up as a child in Nazereth.    Christ means (anointed one) and when this is added to his name it is a declartation that God's Spirit is upon his life.   So Jesus Christ would mean Jesus, anointed one of God.     And then his followers became known as Christians.   The root word of that being CHRIST.   Which means the anointed followers of Jesus.  The Bible says if that SAME SPIRIT that raised Christ from the dead dwells in YOU it will quicken  your mortal body!    And we ALL have a measure of that anointing, it is the power of God upon our lives.    First of all this anointing from God helps us to live a Godly and Holy life.  When you 'put on Christ' it means you are putting on the anointing.  You are waiting on the Spirit of God until his presence comes and clothes you.  You should not let one morning pass by that you do not wait upon the Spirit of God until He comes and clothes you in His presence.   It is that anointing that gives us life, joy, peace and the will to live Godly in Christ Jesus.

Romans 13:14   Let us behave decently, as in the daytime, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and jealousy. 14  Instead, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the desires of the flesh.

When we fail to 'put on Christ' (the anointing) we are making provision for the flesh.  The worst part about making provision for the flesh is that in the flesh is where we make all our mistakes in life that cost us later down the line.   When we put on the mind of Christ (we allow the anointing to fill our mind with the peace of God) we are being lead by the Spirit of God and He leads us into all truth and blessings.

How do we put on Christ?   Walk in the Spirit and you will not make provision for the flesh.  Seek God daily until you are so full of the Spirit you are drunk on that same Spirit, completely saturated.  Let the Spirit take control of your life.  It will not only bring deliverance to your life, but it will mean deliverance for every person that your life touches through out the day!

Galatians 3:27

For all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ.

The Spirit of God should envelope your life like a blanket EVERYDAY.   IF this is not happening to you in your Christian walk you need to seek God desperately and earnestly until this is happening EVERYDAY.   When you are clothed with CHRIST it means the anointing is so wrapped around you that the every plan of the enemy to send spirits to attack you through the day cannot get through that cloak of the Spirit of God that is around your life.   That is like a hedge of protection around your life.  Cloth yourself in Christ.  Who should do this?  According to this verse EVERYONE that has been baptized in Christ should cloth themselves with Christ.   Clothe yourself with the Spirit of God.   How do you cloth yourself in the morning with clothes?   You look for them, you put them on.   How do you cloth yourself with Christ.   You seek the Lord, and when His presence comes, that clothes you in the anoitning.

Luke 4:18  The Spirit of the Lord is on Me, because He has anointed Me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent Me to proclaim deliverance to the captives and recovery of sight to the blind, to release the oppressed, 

Not only does the anoitning help you live a Godly life but it gives you power over the enemy.  How do we break sickness?  How do we break oppressions?   How do we heal the sick?  How do we bring liberty to the captive?   We do so because we are clothed in the Spirit of God.  

Acts 1:8But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes upon you, and you will be My witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.” 

What are you going to receive when the Holy Spirit comes?  POWER.   The Holy Spirit isn't just for making us feel better, or to shout, run, and shake with an EXPERIENCE.   The Holy Spirit is come upon you to give you POWER.    When the anointing us upon us we have POWER over the forces of darkness.   POWER over sickness and disease.  POWER over injuries.    POWER over circumstances.  POWER over lack.   POWER over anger, and other works of our flesh.

The key to everything you need is to put on Christ and cloth yourself in the anointing.

God's Promises Have Not Come to Pass In My Life, So What Can I Do To Help Them Manifest?

What do you do if God gives you a promise and time is running out and the promise has not be manifested yet?  Is there a reason that a promise can be delayed, or is there some way we can activate the promises of God by faith and help them come into place in our lives?

Yes, there is something we can do that will release the power of God into  our lives and activate the promises of God.   We are going to look in the book of Daniel for the answers.  Daniel chapter 9.

Daneil 9:1 In the first year of Darius the son of Ahasuerus, of the descendants of the Medes, who was made king over the realm of the Chaldeans;    2 In the first year of his reign I Daniel understood from the books the number of the years, of which the word of the LORD came to Jeremiah the prophet, that he would accomplish seventy years in the desolations of Jerusalem.

As Daniel began to search the Word of God, he realized that God had spoken through the prophets that their exile to Babylon would last 70 years and then they would be restored and returned to their land.  But that time had passed and the promises had not been fulfilled.   So Daniel began to seek the Lord as to why the promise had not come to pass.

3And I set my face unto the Lord God, to seek by prayer and supplications, with fasting, and sackcloth, and ashes:

The first thing you should do is seek God through fasting and prayer.  How serious are  you about seeing that promise come to pass?   Are you serious enough to fast and pray?  Maybe health issues keep you from fasting food, then fast TV, fast your favorite online game, fast your texting or phone communication.   Food is not the only thing that you can fast.  Pray about what God would have you fast, and spend some time in prayer.  Ask God to reveal to you the reason your promise has not manifested.  Ask God to move upon your life.   Seek Him with your whole heart.  

And what did Daniel pray during his fast?

7  O Lord, righteousness belongs unto you, but unto us shame of face, as at this day; to the men of Judah, and to the inhabitants of Jerusalem, and unto all Israel, that are near, and that are far off, through all the countries where you have driven them, because of their trespass that they have trespassed against you.

He prayed a prayer of repentance.   Do you want to find God's favor?  Then pray a prayer of repentance from your heart.   Do you want to find healing for your soul?  Then pray a  prayer of repentance.   And be specific, confess your sins.   Ask God to reveal to you your unknown sins, so that you can repent of them and be healed.  

After repentance you are going to find that the promises of God begin to manifest in your life.
How many times do we hinder and delay the works of God in our lives because we fail to repent of our sins?   We have the idea that we confess the Word of God, Quote the promises of God, rehearse the plans of God and decree the will of God manifest in our lives.   Those things are not bad things to do, and we should do those things.  But, all the confessing, decreeing and rehearsing is not going to help bring the promises of God in our lives if we are living a life of sin, or harboring sin in our hearts.  If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive our sins and to cleanse us of all unrighteousness.

God's promises were being delayed, so, Daniel fasted and prayed and began confessing and repenting of sins, and pleading for God's mercy and grace.  Can we do this over our lives, the lives of our children, over our nation.  Yes, we can.  Here in Daniel chapter 9 Daniel was confessing the sins of the entire nation of Israel and pleading with God to forgive and to remember his promises.   We can confess the sins of our nation before God, and repent before him on behalf of our family or our nation, and ask God to have compassion and remember his promises.   This kind of faith and confession will move both heaven and earth and those promises God gave you is going to come forth as you humbly ask God for forgivness and mercy.

Don't ever underestimate the power of repentance.  It will activate the power of God quicker than anything else that you can do.

5 Things God is Going To Do For You By His Mighty Right Arm

Whatever you are needing today, God is going to save you by HIS mighty right arm.  There are 5 things that God will do in your life through His mighty right arm.   The right arm is the dominate arm for most people, and is a symbol of strength.   Sometimes I will take both of my arms and try to pull on Bob's right arm, and his right arm is stronger than both of my arms put together.   If this is the case, just imagine how strong the right arm of God is going to be in your life?   Is there anything too hard for our God?  Is there any stronghold that HE cannot break?   Some of you are facing oppressions, sickness and wounds, and I am here to tell you today that these things can be broken off of your life in Jesus name.   Yes, some wounds are rejections are NOT to be healed and carried with you through life, instead they are things that need to be broken off your life and completely gone!  
What can the strong mighty right arm of God do in our lives?

1. bless you - Genesis 48:12-14
12And Joseph brought them out from between his knees, and he bowed himself with his face to the earth.

13And Joseph took them both, Ephraim in his right hand toward Israel's left hand, and Manasseh in his left hand toward Israel's right hand, and brought them near unto him.

14And Israel stretched out his right hand, and laid it upon Ephraim's head, who was the younger, and his left hand upon Manasseh's head, guiding his hands knowingly; for Manasseh was the firstborn.

Jacob blessed his grandchildren and he put his right hand on he younger and left hand on the elder.  Joseph told  him, you have it wrong, Manasseh is the elder, but Jacob crossed his hands and blessed the younger with his right hand.   God's right hand today is reaching out to bless you, his right hand of blessing  is upon your life.   You are not cursed with bad luck!   You are not on your own just another face in the crowd.  God has crossed his hands, and went out of the way to make sure the RIGHT hand of  his blessings is upon your life.

2. deliver you - Exodus 15:5-7

5The depths have covered them: they sank to the bottom as a stone.

6Your right hand, O LORD, has become glorious in power: your right hand, O LORD, has dashed in pieces the enemy.

7And in the greatness of your excellency you have overthrown them that rose up against you: you sent forth your wrath, which consumed them as stubble.our life

This verse is the victory rant of Moses when all of Pharaohs army was drowned into the sea.   PLEASE LISTEN TO WHAT I AM ABOUT TO SAY.   God is getting ready to TAKE YOU where the enemy CANNOT persue you, HE is going to take you where the enemy is crushed and broken off of your life!   By HIS might right arm, God is taking you to a place where you find deliverance, and your enemy is completely crushed and broken off of your life!

Somebody say, "Lord, take me there!"   You can get closer and closer to God and that will help sheild you FROM the enemy, but when God moves by His mighty right arm, the enemies stronghold is completely shattered off of your life.   Somebody shout, "Count me in I'M READY!"   Well, if  you are ready, then get ready to move, because God is going to break things off of your life, and your life is going to change!

3.  Build your life - Isaiah  48: 12-13
12Hearken unto me, O Jacob and Israel, my called; I am he; I am the first, I also am the last.

13My hand also has laid the foundation of the earth, and my right hand has spread out the heavens: when I call unto them, they stand up together.

God created this whole world in 6 days!   By his right arm He spread out the heavens.   He flung the stars into space the same way you or I would fling marbles.   What can man do?   If there was a mountain in the way, and we needed it moved to bring a road through, it would takes us days and weeks to break the side off that mountain.   God can make this whole earth in six days, and yet, man cannot move one mountain without days and hours of work?     What will God do with His mighty right arm?  God will build your life.   You have to surrender it to  Him.  It doesn't take God days, weeks and months to change and build your life.  Change only happens that slowly when we refuse to yeild ourselves completely to God.  Yeild yourself to God 100 percent and watch change happen in you in a moment, in a twinking of an eye.  

4. Comfort you  -Rev. 1:17-18
17   And when I saw him, I fell at his feet as dead. And he laid his right hand upon me, saying unto me, Fear not; I am the first and the last:

18   I am he that lives, and was dead; and, behold, I am alive forevermore, Amen; and have the keys of hades and of death.

God is going to comfort you by His mighty right arm.    My husband can lift a big couch up into a boxed trailer, and then those same hands can hold our son John.   He has great strength as well as great love and compassion.  This is the love of the Father towards us.   He can shatter the stronghold of the enemy with one breath of his nostrils, so much power, authority and strength in his mighty right arm, yet when He touches us, He is loving and kind and compassionate.

5. Lead you Psalms 139:9-10

9 If I take the wings of the morning, and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea;

10Even there shall your hand lead me, and your right hand shall hold me.

The devil may have taken and taken, but God is going to bless you with his mighty right hand. There is no obstacle that can stand against God! You may have hit hard times and suffer some loss, but God is going to build up your life again! He will comfort you and lead you, He will be you strength to see you through the day. Let God lead you by His mighty right hand!

Does God Have A Favorite Candidate for President. A prophet Word for America!

The past couple of days I have been studying about paths.   God has a specific path for each of our live, and no matter what direction we go in life or career that we choose, out path will be a straight and narrow path if we are walking with the Lord.  If we begin to get confused and stray off of that path, God will help us find it again.

Today let's study about this straight and narrow path to God.

Proverbs 3:6 In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight.  

Who will make you paths straight?  God will--  if you acknowledge Him in ALL your ways.   What does it mean to acknowledge someone?  It means to consider them, to listen, to allow them to impact your life and decisions.   As long as you remain humble and willing to yeild to the will of God you are not going to get lost in life.   You will find the path for your life.  Listen to what God says here:  

Galatians 5:19-21  19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,   20 Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,   21 Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

People in America choose to live their lives doing these very things, and as long as we choose to do what God tells us not to do we have not acknowledged His ways in our lives.  Why is America in such a mess?   Because we do not acknowledge the ways of God.   We have gone our own path, done our own thing, did what was right in our own eyes.  We have followed our OWN HEARTS instead of following God.

And does the church acknowledge God?   A large portion of the church does not acknowledge God, they acknowledge their own doctrines, their own traditions, their own desires.

As a nation we have strayed off the staight and narrow path.  This isn't something that has happened just in the past year.   We began straying off the path nearly a half century ago, and we have never corrected course.   And here is the Word that God gave to me, it is not a good word, it is a hard word for our nation.  But here is the Word:


America is on the path of destruction.   There are people running for president, but thus saith the Lord of Host, do not think that any candidate can save America from her path of destruction.  Reguardless of who the America people elect for their president America is on the path of destruction and will remain there until she repents.   Did I say to you that a leader could save a nation?   No, I said to you my people, who are called by name,  if you will humble yourselves and pray and TURN FROM your wicked ways, then I would come and heal the land.   Humble yourselves and pray says the Lord, acknowledge me in all your ways, and I will direct your path and I will lead you away from this path of destruction, look to me and live says the Lord of Host!  

I WILL NOT FEAR!

Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God.  And by Faith we can move mountains though the power of the name of Jesus.   How does our adversary the devil work?  He works through fears, through doubts, through confusions, through strife and unforgiveness.   All of those things open a door to the enemy to do a work in your life.   How does God work?  Through faith, through love, through kindness, through gentelness, through peace, through forgiveness, through the Spirit of God, and all of those things open up doors for God to move through your life.

We are going to study today how the enemy works through fears.   When fears overtake your life it hinders your faith, and without faith the Spirit of God has nothing to move on in your life.   Fear overshadowing your life will make your prayers of non-effect.  So what must we do?   We must learn to get rid of and overcome our fears.

First let's look at how the enemy works.   1 Peter 5:8  Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walks about, seeking whom he may devour:

The devil is like a wild animal, the most ferocious of wild animals, a lion.  One thing about wild animals is they can smell your fear, they since it.   We were given dominion and authority over the animals.   Humans are at the top of the food chain, however, even a small dog can smell and since your fears.   You can take a small dog that is only 1/10 of the size of a human and if it sinces your fear, it will give that dog confidence that it has authority OVER you.    According to God,  this dog does not have authority over you, but the dog isn't paying attention or listening to God, the dog is paying attention to your fear.   And that fear of the dog in you is telling the dog to advance aggressively against you because your fear tells the dog that it has authority over you.

When you fear sickness, you are giving sickness authority over you.
When you fear poverty, you are giving poverty authority over you.
When you fear bad luck, you are giving bad luck authority over you.
When you fear violence, you are giving violence authority over you.
When you fear everything, you are giving everything authority over you.

Whatever you fear, you have given that authority over you.   As believers we should fear NOTHING but God.

All those things mentioned above, sickness, poverty, bad luck, violence, are tools of the devil against you in life.  Whatever you become afraid of, this is what the enemy can use to over take and over whelm you.

What did David say in the book of psalms?

yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I WILL FEAR NO EVIL, for THOU ART WITH ME.

David is giving us two keys to overcoming our fears.   No matter what you are facing today, you are WALKING THROUGH IT.   It won't last forever, it won't stay like that forever.  No matter what the doctors say, maybe they say this sickness will kill you, it doesn't matter, you are only walking through it, it won't last forever.   Just imagine being in a forrest.   If you think you will be there forever and never find a way out this leads to fear, discouragement, hopelessness.   But when you realize, I won't be in this forrest forever,  I'm just going THROUGH it right now, eventually I will come out of this place, then you can walk with confidence and peace and enjoy the beauty of the landscape around you.   Knowing that you are walking through your circumstances instead of LIVING IN THEM FOREVER is what enables you to overcome fear, discouragement, hopelessness and all the other things the enemy throws at you.

So David said though I walk THROUGH the valley of the shadow of death.   How do you get under the shadow of death.   That means that death is looming over you.   What is looming over you today?   Is sickness looming over your life?   Is poverty looming over your life?   Is Violence loomig over your life?   Is bad choices looming over your life?   Is the possibility that you child is going the wrong way looming over your life.    King David had death looming over his life, and yet he said boldly, I WILL FEAR NO EVIL!   Why?  FOR THOU (GOD) ART WITH ME!

Glory, they key to a life of NO FEARS is to keep in mind that you are not stuck where you are, it will pass, and that GOD is with you.   God will keep charge over you.   God will protect you.  He is your sheild,  your fortress.  

We have been given authority over sickness, so we should not and will not fear it.   We have been given authority over poverty so we will not and should not fear it.   We have been given authority over everything that has a name, that at the name of Jesus everything on earth and under the earth should BOW.   We WiLL not FEAR!   Glory to God!

Getting Out of Bad Relationships

 We are going to talk first about how to keep from getting into a bad relationship, and second on how to get out of one if  you are in it.    Bad relationships can bring ruin and damage to your whole life.  So many people who write me are in a bad relationship and they are needing some kind of change.  Often though they are looking for change to come in the wrong areas.   They looking for a change of finances.   Or a change of work conditions.  Or a change in the other person.   The truth is the only change that any of us are in control of is a change in ourself.   Start by reading this blog today with the thought that the only true thing you can change is yourself and you are already on your way to freedom.   First let's talk about how to avoid a bad relationship:

Ok.  I get emails that say:   "What can I do?   He is not being good to me, and is selfish, mean to me, in trouble with the law."    Or I get emails that say,  "He is not being good to me, and he is cheating on me, and he promised to married me but he hasn't made any efforts, what do I do?"

And everytime I get an email like this the person they are in a relationship with was that kind of person BEFORE they got invovled with them.   All I can say is "Why? Why? Why?   Why do that to yourself."  You knew they were no good, and you go with them anyway?   when I ask this the responses vary,  but usually,   It's because they love them and they going to help them change.     IF that person can't help themself change,  you won't help them either.   They lieing to you about change.  If they wanted change they would have already done change.  

  It's like this if you are a bunny rabit and you find someone to date and this thing is green, got big teeth, and live in the water, you found an alligator, and it's going to eat your bunny tail alive!   The Bible says do not be unequally yoked.  If you are a good person, don't get invovled with a jerk because they are telling you that you are the one that can change them.   Does everyone deserve a chance to do better?  Absolutely!  But that doesn't mean you have to enter into relations with this person, and if they won't let you help them change without any 'physical realtions going on'' they are just lieing to you about wanting to change.  HELLO!  BAM!   Yes, there it is!   For instance:

   If that person you are interested in is doing drugs DONT GO ON A SECOND DATE.  HELLO!  If that person you are interested in has a big hickey on his neck from someone else he dated last night or last week, DONT GO ON ANOTHER DATE!   If that person  you are interested in hasn't had a consistent job for at least a year or two  DONT GO ON ANOTHER DATE.   If that person you are interested in can't get along with his family and even his momma is not happy to see him.  DONT GO ON A ANOTHER DATE.   If that person you interested in says He wants to serve God after you say you a church girl but he has never been to church in the past six months  DONT GO ON ANOTHER DATE.   If that person you are interested in wants to tell you what clothes to wear, what music to listen to, what food you can and cannot drink, who you can and cannot talk to DONT GO ON A ANOTHER DATE.   If that person you are interested in has a reputation for getting in trouble with the law and sleeping around DONT GO ON A ANOTHER DATE.   If that person cusses you and raises his fist at you and knocks holes in the wall when they don't get there say  DONT GO ON ANOTHER DATE.  If this person is still living with his wife and kids and he telling you he is going to leave them for you.  DON'T GO ON ANOTHER DATE.    Hey, these are the no brainer expamples, but there is more.   Make your own list and set your standards high.   You may think you won't ever find anyone that would pass all those test.  HONEY IT IS BETTER TO BE ALONE THAN TO BE IN A BAD RELATIONSHIP!   You can't find MR. right, if you hanging off the arm of the wrong person.    Same thing for you guys too.   When you are a bunny (a good person)  don't think you can date an alligator (a bad person) without getting swallowed alive because you can't!    Don't deceive  yourself into thinking that with God you can change that old alligator of a person into a bunny.  I mean they will lie to you and tell you how much they want to be a good person, they just want you to carry their sorry butt for them, that's all.

Now what if you already with an alligator and you got a soul tie with them and it hurts to stay and it hurts to leave.   Then you do got problems!
1.   Fast and pray.   Don't fast and pray that they will change.   Fast and pray that God will help you get out of this without it completely destroying your life.

2.  Don't enable them.   They are going to act out to show you how much they need you there.  They will play the part of the lost sheep that is just looking for some good person like you to help them, they will give you the guilt card for not jumping at their every need.   Just say, "NO"  and walk away, and just like Lot, DONT LOOK BACK!

3.  Don't treat them like they are handicapped.   Let them know  you expect them to get a job like everyone else.  Let them know they have responsiblitlies like everyone else.   Did they stay out all night drinking?   Don't enable them by letting them sleep all day.   Stay after them to pull their own weight and carry their own responsibilites.  

4.  If nothing else works, Plain and simple BREAK FREE.  If it is your house, tell them to leave and don't cave in, stand your ground.    If it is their house, why are you there?  Humble yourself and find some place else to go.

Remember that the storms did not stop until the men threw Jonah overboard.   Those storms in your life are not going to stop until you get that sorry Jonah out of your house.   You deserve peace, and no it is not your responsiblity to take care of them or try to help change them.   Their momma couldn't do nothing with them, and you aren't going to be able to either.