Overcoming the Spirit of Rejection

When we look at the Bible we see people who had to suffer some rejection.   Look at the life of Joseph.  Rejected by his brothers, betrayed by his masters wife, he went through many rejections and trials.    Look at the life of David.  When the Prophet Samuel went to the house of Jesse to anoint one of his sons as King, Samuels first thoughts was to anoint the oldest and the biggest.  But God said, "No, do not look on the outward but on the heart."   David was so disappointing that his Father didn't even present him to the prophet as a candidate to be anointed as King.   Yet God chose him.   Later his brothers belitteled and berated David, his family gave him a lot of rejection.   There are many of you reading this and you know exactly what it is like to feel rejected by your family and close relatives.   You have been rejected all your life, and it still impacts your life today.

Here are 11  things that the spirit of rejection does to harm your life and altar your personality.

Inability to receive love.
When someone who is significant in our lives has rejected us, it makes us feel unworthy. It establishes a root belief that if we are unworthy, we are unlovable; therefore, we are unable to receive love.
Romans 5:8  But God commends his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.


Inability to love others.
The root of rejection destroys our ability to trust others. We are reluctant to allow ourselves to get into close relationship with others. Obviously, if we can't get close to another person, we can't consider loving that person.
John 13:34-35   34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. 35 By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”

Insecurity.
After we have experienced rejection by someone significant in our lives, we don't know whom we can trust. Subconsciously, we walk through life as if we were walking on eggs. We always expect betrayal or criticism to be right around the corner.
Proverbs 3:26  For the LORD will be your confidence and will keep your foot from being caught.


Withdrawal.
Because we feel vulnerable in the presence of others, we feel there is safety in isolation. Our natural tendency, therefore, is to withdraw from the mainstream of society.
Mark 16:15 And he said unto them, Go you into all the world, and preach the gospel to every creature.

Suspicion.
Our inability to trust others breeds suspicion of everyone. We never really know when we might be rejected again.
Psalm 3:3 But You, O Lord, are a shield about me, my glory, and the One who lifts my head.

Inferiority.
Because we feel unworthy, we naturally feel inferior to others. This inferiority is reflected in our relationships and in our work.
Isaiah 62:4a, 5b It will no longer be said to you, “Forsaken,” Nor to your land will it any longer be said, “Desolate”; But you will be called, “My delight is in her,” And your land, “Married”; for the Lord delights in you, and as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so your God will rejoice over you.

Social Shyness.
Social gatherings are painful to us because we feel we are surrounded by superior people who look upon us as we look upon ourselves. Although this is not true, our mind-set will not allow us to think differently.
Jeremiah 31:3-4 The Lord appeared to him from afar, saying, “I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have drawn you with lovingkindness. Again I will build you and you will be rebuilt, O virgin of Israel! Again you will take up your tambourines, and go forth to the dances of the merrymakers.

Fear of failure.
We are convinced we are incapable of accomplishing anything as well as others can accomplish them. Our low expectation of ourselves is usually reflected in our willingness to stay in jobs or relationships that require little of us.
Isaiah 35:4 say to those with fearful hearts, “Be strong, do not fear; your God will come, he will come with vengeance; with divine retribution he will come to save you.”

Fear of man.
Because we look upon everyone else as superior to ourselves, we rarely initiate anything on our own for fear of being criticized. We prefer to be told what to do and when and how to do it. Our only problem from that point is to follow directions accurately.
Proverbs 29:25  The fear of man brings a snare, But he who trusts in the LORD will be exalted.
Fear of rejection.
 The fear of rejection keeps us from ever being our real selves. We are always in a performance mode, hoping to please others.

Self-rejection.
 We consider ourselves to be misfits, with no place in society.
2 Cor. 12:9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

Daydreaming/fantasizing.
Because we fear reality, we have a tendency to live in a world of our own fantasy. We are safe in this world of fantasy, never challenged, always victorious. This is an obvious form of withdrawal. It can only generate an unhealthy personality.
2 Cor. 10:5 5 Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;

Rejection is a spirit and we get rid of it the same way that we get rid of all unwanted spirits.  We rebuke it and cast it out of our lives in the name of Jesus.    Pray with me.  IN the name of Jesus, I bind and break that spirit of rejection off of your life,  I come against it and command it to leave you now by the blood of Jesus.  Spirit of rejection, go from them now, and give them peace of mind amen.