17The woman answered and said, I have no husband. Jesus said unto her, You have well said, I have no husband:
18For you have had five husbands; and he whom you now have is not your husband: that said you truly.
When you heart has issues it longs to be loved, nurtured, protected cherished. Often a woman can get caught going from relationship to relationship looking for the place of love. But just like the woman at the well this doesn't help your life, it just rips it apart and makes you more needy and full of pain. Does God tell us how to have good relationships? Yes he does. His ways are not our ways, but, if you have had a similar experience as the woman at the well, why not try it God's way, His ways will build your life upon a rock, and that rock will be your shelter through every storm in life. Here are 5 things that God tells us about relationships that can save us from a world of hurt and pain. If the person you are interested in doesn't qualify, then LEAVE IT ALONE, there is nothing but pain there for you.
1. We should not be unequally yoked with non believers.
2 Corinthians 6:14 Be you not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness? and what partnership has light with darkness?
If the person you are interested in does not believe in God RUN from them. It doesn't matter how nice they are or what wonderful things they say. This person will be pulling left eventually while you are pulling right and it will end up an explosive and unfulfilled union.
2. Do not have sex with anyone outside of marriage. The Bible calls this fornication. Once sexual relations take place everything gets COMPLICATED. The Bible says that the two become one flesh, so sex is more than physical it is also relational bonding of the soul and spirit. To leave someone that you have already had sexual relations with is an extremely hard thing to do. That is why you should not be EASY and sleep with people right off. You can become bonded with someone who is an absolute nut and not realize it if you are quick to jump in bed.
1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man does is outside the body; but he that commits fornication sins against his own body.
When you have sex outside of marriage you are sinning against your own body, you are just hurting yourself. Most people that I talk to have major regrets of having sex with someone who did not love them enough to make a commitment of marriage.
3. If the other person is MARRIED, this is not the person for you! Do you know that most every person that cheats on their spouse tells their lover that they are going to get a divorce soon, or separate soon. It doesn't matter if they say this, most of the time it is a LIE. Nearly every time I counsel someone who is involved with someone who is married they think it is OK because all though they are living with their current spouse now, they have been told that they are going to break up soon. None of that matters. If you enter into relationship with a married person the Bible calls this adultery. There is nothing but pain here.
1 Corinthians 6:9 Know you not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,
We must listen to God because He wants to keep us from going from one painful relationship to another. After pain sets up in your heart it becomes hard to be a good spouse because pain will cause you to walk in hurt and mistrust and without peace and trust there is no such thing as a working relationship.
4. Anyone that is involved in things that are illegal, breaking the law, or expensive habits will make a night mare of a relationship for you! When you see someone that has not regard for the law, do drugs, or steal from others in someway it should be obvious this is not a good person to enter into relationship with.
Galatians 6:7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man sows, that shall he also reap.
Are you a good person? A good Christian? The Bible says that bad company corrupts good morals. And a tree is known by their fruit. If you enter into a relationship with someone who has an 'addiction' problem it is just a matter of time before they bring destruction to your life. Can you help them? Yes, but do so at a distance. You don't have to date someone and move in with them to help them overcome their issues in life. Bringing someone like this into your life is not only destructive for you, but for the rest of your family. They will spend all of their money, and yours too. And you children may learn their ways and become just like them.
5. It is not wise to enter into a relationship with someone who is broke all the time. If you have a home, are raising your kids, and have food on your table do not make the mistake of bringing someone into your home that hasn't held down a job in their life.
2 thessalonians 3:10 For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat.
IF you bring someone into your home, give them sex, give them money, put your effort into whatever they want for your home and take time, energy, food and resources away from your own family get ready for a lot of heart aches pains and hurts. This person won't work, they are a drifter, and that is what they 'do for a living' They play the 'I want to do better if I only had someone like you' routine very well. The thing about drifters is they are also players. They are always "in between jobs" and cannot hold down real work for more than a few weeks. Often they use sickness or pain for a reason for their drug abuse and lack of work ethic. If you don't give them just what they want they will drift off and find another. They are not tied down or committed to anything or anyone this is how they live. This kind of relationship will be nothing but sorrows, pain and heart ache.
When we enter into relationships that violate the Word of God we will suffer because God knows all about life and how to live it with success and satisfaction. When God issues a warning in the Bible, it should be heeded. Are you going to put a relationship, or another person above the warnings of God? If so, then get ready for the heart aches, pain and tragedy that comes from living with those kinds of people.
4. Anyone that is involved in things that are illegal, breaking the law, or expensive habits will make a night mare of a relationship for you! When you see someone that has not regard for the law, do drugs, or steal from others in someway it should be obvious this is not a good person to enter into relationship with.
Galatians 6:7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man sows, that shall he also reap.
Are you a good person? A good Christian? The Bible says that bad company corrupts good morals. And a tree is known by their fruit. If you enter into a relationship with someone who has an 'addiction' problem it is just a matter of time before they bring destruction to your life. Can you help them? Yes, but do so at a distance. You don't have to date someone and move in with them to help them overcome their issues in life. Bringing someone like this into your life is not only destructive for you, but for the rest of your family. They will spend all of their money, and yours too. And you children may learn their ways and become just like them.
5. It is not wise to enter into a relationship with someone who is broke all the time. If you have a home, are raising your kids, and have food on your table do not make the mistake of bringing someone into your home that hasn't held down a job in their life.
2 thessalonians 3:10 For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat.
IF you bring someone into your home, give them sex, give them money, put your effort into whatever they want for your home and take time, energy, food and resources away from your own family get ready for a lot of heart aches pains and hurts. This person won't work, they are a drifter, and that is what they 'do for a living' They play the 'I want to do better if I only had someone like you' routine very well. The thing about drifters is they are also players. They are always "in between jobs" and cannot hold down real work for more than a few weeks. Often they use sickness or pain for a reason for their drug abuse and lack of work ethic. If you don't give them just what they want they will drift off and find another. They are not tied down or committed to anything or anyone this is how they live. This kind of relationship will be nothing but sorrows, pain and heart ache.
When we enter into relationships that violate the Word of God we will suffer because God knows all about life and how to live it with success and satisfaction. When God issues a warning in the Bible, it should be heeded. Are you going to put a relationship, or another person above the warnings of God? If so, then get ready for the heart aches, pain and tragedy that comes from living with those kinds of people.
If you are already in a relationship that violates the Word of God get out now. Don't wait for a good time, the longer you wait, the more destruction you are bringing to your own life. Walk in obedience to God's Word and protect your heart by doing relationships GODS WAY!
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